One Step at a Time

Question 8 out of 365:

Love, I’ve been in love on and off for the past six years now, I was serious but for some reason, those people I got involved to we’re either too inconsistent, too complicated or too good to be true. If you are asking me who do I love at the moment, and you are talking about opposite sex, right? Uhmm, I’ll say no one. None at the moment. I’m trying to figure out how it is possible, but honestly I believe I am not in love with anyone.

I guess I badly need this break now, just a couple of months more, and my heart will no more under construction. I was in a roller-coaster ride last year and I am still fixing some pieces of myself that was torn apart so I can be fair to the next person who’s willing to get my heart back working and ticking again. 

I’ll be in love this year, when I am fully ready. I can feel he’s somewhere near now. I just don’t know the person yet but one thing is for sure, I’ll be ready by the time we meet :)

Question 7 out of 365:

This actually depends on the situation. But usually whenever I am in need to make a comment for a certain story, I ask first questions to broaden my knowledge so I could make fair judgement to the people involved. It is sometimes necessary to ask questions so you can get the whole story rather than making up assumptions and give irrelevant opinion. Asking questions is not bad at all, there are people who ask questions just to get something to talk about, like gossips they can spread. Those are the type of people you need to stay away.

Question 6 out of 365:

This is actually a very hard question. I hate going back to the past and dig what I did or chose wrong then because I have this tendency to dwell and revive what I felt back then. Time passes by so fast and I can’t barely remember what I was focusing on by then, so if today is already 2012 minus 5 years ago, then that would be 1997. I was still in college then, graduation was just around the corner and I was preparing saying goodbye to school activities, ending a chapter in my life and welcoming my arms to a next journey. Everything I learned about in school was about to utilized as my “real” life was about to begin.

If I could go back and change everything, I wish I spent more time planning my future. What job do I really want to focus on, and setting up a goal or vision for my career after five years. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t love my job, I can proudly say my job is decent, I am somehow utilizing what I learned in college and most importantly, I am earning more than what I need. But I just thought maybe I am more productive in other type of career or maybe I am at my best in a job where I can apply what I took in college and most of all what I enjoy doing most. I am currently in Sales and I graduated in Marketing so there is actually a big connection between my job and my course, but I feel there is lacking in my job right now, and I am trying to figure it out. I know time is running a bit fast, I’m not getting any younger and I need to sort things out as soon as possible. I am looking forward in changing my career and develop my skills for a better ME!

Wish me luck!

Question 5 out of 365:

Life is full of ups and downs. No amount of goodness can stop life in throwing you dilemmas so you can learn lessons you can carry with you for as long as you are alive. 

What I learned about life is that you cannot have two worlds at the same time. We sometimes tend to become greedy and insist what we want instead of focusing what is the best for us and what we truly needed. People say life is unfair, but sometimes I beg to disagree. I now understand that God always has better plans compared to what we vision in our life. We, people, sometimes have a lot of ambition that is impossible to reach. Well don’t get me wrong, it’s not bad to aim for something, it is actually good to set a goal in life because that only means you seek for improvement, but sometimes we tend to expect a lot from life and that’s the reason why we get disappointed, stumble and fall.

Just always remember that everything happens for a purpose. Be happy and contented on what you have right now. Cherish, relish, and savor the moment.

Question 4 out of 365:

I sometimes see my life boring as you can imagine. But lately, I realized it doesn’t have to be that way, that there’s a lot of opportunities out there and there are tons of things I could possibly do to enjoy it. Life can not be at its best without taking risks.

Life has a lot to offer. You can’t just sit down, relax and wait for some exciting things to happen. If you do it, you’re only slackening the moment and you’re not making the most out of it. What you need to do is to try new things. Go out and have fun. Meet and greet a lot of people. Make friends. Fall in love, and don’t worry about getting hurt. Hurting is normal, and without the pain, you will never learn. But above all this, you should also remember not to abuse yourself, it’s okay to have fun but know your limitations. Every thing beyond necessary is addicting. And being addicted is bad for someone’s mind and soul.

Life is Life. You can’t change what is meant for you. But you can always choose to make right decisions. 

Question 3 out of 365:

A simple word can simply uplift someone. Friends who care the most are the people who will always say the right words at the right time. But the most remarking words of all could be from a complete stranger who happen to accidentally pass by you, notice the sadness from your eyes, hesitantly approaches you, tap your shoulder and say the most sensible words you never expected. There are people who barely know you, if you’re lucky enough, will do every possible way to make you feel better.

The most sensible thing I’ve ever heard someone say would be “You have a good heart, and it matters!”. We sometimes fail to notice our value as a person. We listen to people who want to see us down, instead of listening to people who care the most. You can never please everybody, all you need to do is just be yourself and don’t pretend for someone you’re not. Because people are smart enough to know whether you are faking it, and the more you fake it, the more you attract haters. Just remember that having a good heart is better than having the most beautiful face. 

Question 2 out of 365:

Insecurities. It’s actually one of those dilemmas a woman cannot avoid at all times. No matter how confident you are about yourself, there are some instances when you can’t help feeling bad that someone is better than you. No matter how you are able to list a thousand reasons why you are the way you are than why you are not somebody else, it will all vanish in just a blink of an eye when someone passes by and everyone including yourself can’t stop having a second look.

I have a lot of insecurities about myself. I don’t feel beautiful. I don’t feel like anything to anyone. I love comparing myself to those skinny, long-legged, crystal-skinned, pointed-nose, perfect-in-line-set-of-teeth women out there. I know I’m being mean with myself, but I can’t help it. Who doesn’t ever felt that way at some point in time? No one.

No one wants to feel down and vindicated. I can’t blame myself nor every woman as the society, the television, the advertisements, the men, the critics, even the mirror - they are all creating this kind of illusion at what perfection is truly all about or if such thing do exist at all.

As they all say, there is no cure for being insecure. I’m not sure whether I want to believe it or not but all I know is it takes a dose of acceptance and contentment day by day to fight this plague spreading all over your body. People at the television might be perfect but they are not naturally born that way. Beauty is always seen at its best for those who has a good heart. Beauty will fade but if you have a good heart and a blessed soul, beauty will comes out naturally from you, and you’ll be thankful because those people who stood by you and appreciates you for what you are will forever stay with you no matter what.